Let’s talk social media as a mother.
If you are on Facebook, Instagram, or any other social media site, you have probably been the victim of a judgmental comment at least once. I remember getting a comment on a status when I was pregnant with my first son that still makes my blood boil 4 years later. I deleted the whole status, deleted that person, and vowed to try and be less judgmental online.
I like to describe my current online persona as sarcastically positive, just like in real life. But I sometimes find myself comparing my life to what the other mothers share on Instagram. Don’t do that. Don’t compare yourself to someone’s filtered life they are sharing. You don’t know what their life is like behind the post, what their troubles are, or if they are being paid to post that. So, when those times come that you are comparing yourself to another person’s seemingly effortless take on motherhood, just remember this: WE HAVE ALL BEEN COVERED IN ANOTHER HUMAN’S POOP AT LEAST ONCE.
Social media can be a double-edged sword. We are constantly connected, so when we aren’t connected it can feel lonely. It’s sad, isn’t it? I will open up another time about how I manage my anxiety and depression as a parent, but let’s just say being able to connect online just for a moment can be the difference between tears and laughs. Now you can limit what you share, or you can be an open book. There are safety things to consider as a parent with social media, but I am not going to get it because it can sometimes feel like fear-mongering. I am not going to judge you, it is your life you are sharing or not sharing about. I just want you to know I am here for you. We can meet up in person, we can talk on the phone, we can even write letters, I just want to be connected to you! Face to face time is way more important than social media, but we have it available for those times when it isn’t possible to connect otherwise.
I am sure you know there are a lot of mommy wars always going on, and spread all over social media. Instead of giving into the wars, we should just be there for each other, instead of criticizing everything. Stay positive, stay humorous, stay polite, and then share our experiences, share advice as requested, and overall, offer support to other mothers. We are raising the next generation, and our kids should see us working together (even with different opinions) to raise the best generation we can. “The motherhood is real” is the Fit4Mom motto. I truly believe that.
So, go about your day as normal, deal with those screaming children, wipe that poop off your hands (maybe use soap and water), and just try to forget judgmental comments (I am trying). You are raising the next generation so show them how to be a good person, show them that being kind is more important than making another person feel bad. Be sarcastic, be positive, post dozens of pictures, post none, judge less, and support more.